We all know women are unclean for seven days when they are menstruating (Lev 15:19), but did you know your teenage son is unclean if he has a wet dream? There are two passages that deal with the subject.
Lev 15:16-17 And if any man's seed of copulation go out from him, then he shall wash all his flesh in water, and be unclean until the even. And every garment, and every skin, whereon is the seed of copulation, shall be washed with water, and be unclean until the even.
Deut 23:10-11 If there be among you any man, that is not clean by reason of uncleanness that chanceth him by night, then shall he go abroad out of the camp, he shall not come within the camp: but it shall be, when evening cometh on, he shall wash himself with water: and when the sun is down, he shall come into the camp again.
I've been through this with my fourteen-year-old son recently, and I'd like to share with you how God helped me as a father through this so that when the time comes for your teenage son, you'll be prepared. I have identified two hurdles when it comes to enforcing God's law on this matter. First, your son probably won't tell you when he's had a wet dream. Second, frequency: given the hassle associated with having wet dreams, you don't want your son to have them too often.
Your son will probably be too embarrassed to tell you when he's had a wet dream, and in some cases may not even be aware he has had one. As your son approaches puberty, get your wife to inspect his bedsheets, underwear and pajamas every morning for semen stains. If a stain is found, your son must be quarantined for the entire day. He cannot go to school or church or eat with the rest of the family. You should make a hut in your backyard specifically for this purpose. The semen-stained clothes and bedsheets will need to be washed; and because your wife has touched the defiled clothing, she too will be unclean until evening.
To reduce the frequency of wet dreams, make sure your son prays every night before bed for God to shield his dreams and protect him from his flesh as he sleeps. Remind your son that he should not be thinking about sex, as it is a sin to commit lust in your heart (). Tell him that if in a half-asleep state he becomes aware that he is about to lose retention of his issue, he must try with all his might to stop the flow. It is extremely painful but possible to do, and it will save him from losing a whole day. If your son persists to have frequent wet dreams, you may need to try a spermatorrhoea ring to ensure he wakes up at the first hint of tumescence.
Although wet dreams mainly affect teenagers, men can continue to have wet dreams into their twenties. If you still struggle with wet dreams into early adulthood, make sure you are following Philippians 4:8 and filling your mind with only good
thoughts. Pray before bedtime. Wake your wife up in the middle of the night for sex if you think you're at risk of having a nocturnal emission. Sadly, these days, most bosses don't like their employees taking the day off because they've had a wet dream. If worst comes to worst, you may need to try a spermatorrhoea ring.
I just feel really blessed to have been made a man. Semen is not as unclean as menstrual blood; it only makes one unclean for one day as opposed to seven. Praise the Lord!